If you want to see what children can do, you must stop giving them things
Not many parents understand the importance of providing as much as required. Safe guarding the child from challenges make them weak. I agree, it is the hard for parents to see their kids struggle. Our heart breaks and stomach churns from just the thought of it. But the struggle they face today will build them for the future. Understand this little story:
“You can’t give her that!’ she screamed. ‘It’s not safe!’IT’S A SWORD, said the father. THEY’RE NOT MEANT TO BE SAFE.’She’s a child!’ shouted mother.IT’S EDUCATIONAL.’What if she cuts herself?’THAT WILL BE AN IMPORTANT LESSON.”
The lesson kids learn, they stay with them throughout their life. It becomes important to give kids a free hand at age appropriate task. Whether your child is struggling to acquire a new skill or it is a homework assignment, it can be hard to take a step back and let your child handle it.
If your child comes home and shares that something bad happened, let’s say another kid took his pencil and did not give it back. Instead of calling up the teacher try talking to your kid. Ask your child what can be done. Discuss what action your child needs take. Let your child take the responsibility to convey this message to the teacher. These little initiatives will help the child in finding the solutions.
The fact is we, as parents will not be there every time and it is our moral duty to make them an independent individual who can figure things out. As kids grow we need to build their confidence. And nobody has gained self worth or confidence under the wing of overprotective parents. We need to build our kids
A child with confidence in own ability is the child with resilience andkids like these bounce back much faster when faced with the challenges. They are aware of their ability to tackle a situation and they can ask for assistance without feeling shy. When you give your kid enough so they don’t have to worry about getting things done, they will never know how to achieve anything. It is simple, if you want your kids to see the stars, you should give them space to look up. To excel at life they must know the struggles and disappointments.
A child who has tasted disappointment can acknowledge the fruits of perseverance. Every kid goes through difficult time and challenges and that is exactly how they mature. And kids are like trees, they can’t grow when we over water them or put them in shade to protect them from the harshness of the sun. They will grow when they realize and utilize their ability and strength.
It is never easy to witness the struggle of our kids but ultimately it is the best way to see them conquer the dreams. And when they achieve it, their success is a prized possession.